I’m posting this really early in the morning, so I’ll probably look back at this and none of it will make sense. I realise I haven’t posted anything in a while, but as odd as this may sound, my head has been completely free of any form of note-worthy thoughts for a long while. The reason I’m writing this here, in public, and not in my diary1 is because I’m actually looking for people’s opinions. I’ll be severely disappointed if I don’t get at least one reply to this. I know this website isn’t as popular as it probably could be had I kept it regularly updated but I imagine it’ll get around.
I’m curious, what do people believe makes a good friendship? I’ve always assumed it comes down to trust. In the end, no matter what happens, as long as the trust is there, the friendship will remain strong. And that’s because trust relates back to everything. You want a friend that makes you feel comfortable? Well, would you feel comfortable around someone you can’t trust? You want a friend to always be there for you? If you can’t trust them, how do you know they’ll be there for you when you most need it? You can apply this to any “necessary” quality that is required to make a friendship.
I’m sort of talking nonsense here but I think I’m on to something. Another point is, how much trust is enough? Do you need full, 100%, blind devotion trust? Or just basic, minimal, don’t-stab-me-in-the-back trust? And does the trust need to be reciprocated? All of these are important factors. I know a friend isn’t like a business transaction where you weigh up the pros and cons, but if a friend that you trust completely tells you they don’t trust you back, what are you supposed to do with that? How do you deal with it? Perhaps a pros and cons list would be the best idea.
Hmmm, I think that’s enough for tonight. Or, this morning. I can barely keep my eyes open whilst writing this nonsense.
Oh, a last thing. I love Lady Gaga. So much. All her music. She herself. Everything about Lady Gaga I love. If someone knows about meeting her… I’d be interested.
1. Not that I have a diary…
What makes a good friendship??????….I’ll say it has to have 3 major values: Respect, Trust, and Loyalty. You can’t have a good frienship if you don’t have these values because these values work hand in hand together, without respect how can you trust? without trust how can you be loyal? right? its just how people treat each one and become comfortable with one another. when you love your friend and believe in your friendhsip, Trust can’t be counted. (well, i can say for the rest) I do have a lot of friends BUT I CHOOSE MY FRIENDS,that way i don’t get scared that my trust won’t be trampled and i give my all because i know their my TRUE friends.
BTW: I LOVE LADY GAGA TOO!!! hahaha!! From HER hairdo down to her shoes!
Hmm, a good question. I have to agree that trust is the number one factor. Without trust how can you rely on them? How can you talk to them? I guess because all my friends own some part of me (they don’t know this, and I mean metaphorically) I need to trust them not to destroy that part.
I think it’s really too different from person to person. It just depends on the way people relate to each other. There are people I wouldn’t trust to, say, look after me if I got drunk, or help me if I was in trouble, but I’m still friends with them. In their case, I enjoy their company, but I make sure I don’t ever have to rely on them.
Thanks for the replies. I guess it depends on how you classify friends. Friends to me have always been people I trust, but to someone else they might just be people you can talk to. Thanks. You’ve given me something to think about.